Okay, so, not necessarily a question but it does raise a thousand questions and I will at least try to tackle some of them. I will also add some as time goes on because I constantly see this question posted on Reddit and I think it's about time someone gave these people some guidance!
1. Is it a good idea?
Not exactly. If you're the typical person who has romantic idealisations about sex and want your first time to be romantic or emotionally fulfilling then no. If, however, you're apathetic then go for it, but for the typical person I feel obliged to say just wait until you find someone you like. That's probably the most overused bit of advice given for this particular question, but it's true.
If you're young and feeling a little bit reckless, then seriously, just wait. If you're older, mature, and you have rationally come to the conclusion that it's time and that you don't want to become a "40 Year Old Virgin" sort of character, then go ahead.
Ultimately the choice is yours, but from what I've seen in so many people who reported their experiences in losing their virginity with a sex worker, it might not be the greatest idea if you also want the emotional experience that it can bring.
2. Should I tell her (or him) that it's my first time?
Yes. Yes! Yes! Yes! Every single time, yes!
I can only speak from my experience as a call girl when I say this but unless you don't tell her, she will assume that you have had sex before. You will be feeling a lot of new sensations and certain urges with this person who knows nothing about you so tell her that it's your first time so that she can prepare herself for you.
On a completely different note, I just realised I'm speaking like every sex worker out there is female, sorry for this generalisation but I'm just going to continue calling them (or us?) "her" because it's easier for me to type and I imagine for you read it this way. Just be aware, I don't mean to generalise, it is purely for convenience.
So, getting back to the question, by telling her she will be aware that it's all new to you so she will go easy on you. During the act tell her about the certain things that you like, be it something in foreplay or a particular position or something. It just makes her part easier so she doesn't have to work blind -- meeting new clients is sometimes a little difficult because we are essentially "working blind", meaning we have no idea exactly what kind of service you require because every client is different in that they all like different things. If you hire someone good at their job then they will understand this and they will tailor their service to suit you and your preferences if you have any. For example, if during the act you find you prefer it hard as opposed to gentle, or vice versa, then tell her.
3. How will I know if she's good?
Honestly? You won't until you're physically experiencing her. Speak to her, try to build a [PROFESSIONAL!] relationship and if she makes you feel comfortable then this should help.
A higher price doesn't necessarily mean better service, and neither do the reviews. An incredibly "attractive" (meaning tanned and lean with fake, expensive boobs) call girl with a shitty service will get away with charging HIGH rates compared to someone less attractive who has better service purely because she has the looks to get away with it. Regarding the reviews, while they may be a good indicator as to what someone's service is like, it might not completely accurate from your viewpoint because sex is such a subjective experience -- the kind of service one client enjoys may not be exactly what you enjoy.
4. How will I know if I'm good?
This question makes me sad. The unfortunate truth is that you won't until someone tells you.
The best part of seeing a sex worker is that they won't be evaluating your performance -- they're there to give you a good time so you don't necessarily have to worry about them.
If you're terrified about technique and how to do certain things the correct way then by all means Google it. There are thousands of articles on this stuff, it's nothing new to the world.
5. I'm scared of doing *insert act/move here*. e.g. daty, hj, bj, a levels
Experiment. If the person you're hiring is okay with doing a particular act (if you're not sure then feel free to ask them) then go ahead and experiment. Now's your time to. Don't be afraid to try out new things and if you want guidance then tell her and if she can do her job well, she should be great help!
Because it's your first time, don't be afraid to use her like a teacher and get her to teach you things. Also, don't be afraid to bombard her with questions during the time you've got her. If she knows you're new to all this and she's good at what she does then she should be able to help.
6. How can I make sure she's comfortable and enjoying herself?
This is the easiest question by far. Just make sure you're clean, calm and you turn up on time with the right amount of money. She'll do everything else. Go with the flow and let her make you her priority. If you really want to pleasure her then ask her what moves/acts she enjoys and do them.
Also, one really important thing is make sure your damn breath tastes fresh! Brush your teeth, don't mask the smell of your breakfast with other food/drink. I once had a client who would drink Oasis before our session and it always made me feel a little bit sick because it was like snogging a bowl of artificial sweetener for an hour.
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